jannahbound*
"So lose not heart, nor fall into despair: and you shall have the upper hand if you are believers." --
Quran (3:139)
"Life is only a crossing point and a passage that is not lasting,
just like a cloud that will soon move, and a dream that one will soon wake up from..."
- Ibn al-Qayyim
Wednesday, December 24, 2008 @ 8:13 PM
Verbal Abuse
Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh,
Insha'Allah, God willing, you are all in the best state of affairs. I finally have some time to post and insha'Allah I will be using these two weeks which I have off, to post more often.
I was going through one of my favourite websites: Sahaba.net (http://sahaba.net) and decided to read some of the stories on patience. This is one story that I had heard before and thought I should share here.
Once, a person was verbally abusing Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) while the Prophet (peace be upon him) was curiously watching with a smile. After taking much abuse quietly, Abu Bakr responded to a few of his comments. At this, the Prophet exhibited his disapproval, got up and left. Abu Bakr caught up with the Prophet and wondered, 'O Messenger of Allaah, he was abusing me and you remained sitting. When I responded to him, you disapproved and got up.' The Messenger of Allaah responded, 'There was an angel with you responding to him. When you responded to him, Satan took his place.' He then said ..
'O Abu Bakr, there are three solid truths: If a person is wronged and he forbears it (without seeking revenge) just for the sake of Allaah almighty, Allaah will honour him and give him the upper hand with His help; if a person opens a door of giving gifts for cementing relationships with relatives, Allaah will give him abundance; and, if a person opens a door of seeking charity for himself to increase his wealth, Allaah will further reduce his wealth.'
Reported from Abu Huraira in Mishkaah and Musnad Ahmad.
Patience is beautiful, and it is pure. No one said it would be easy, but insha'Allah if we strive, we'll be rewarded with peace of mind in this world and rewards in the Hereafter. Being patient in most instances involves swallowing our pride, which can be rather difficult. May Allah SWT make it easy for us. Ameen. I find one thing that helps is keeping in mind that you are 100% responsible and accountable for what come sout of your mouth. It does not suffice to say that someone made you angry; you chose to allow yourself to become angry. The fault is yours, it's up to you to fix it.
May Allah SWT increase us in patience and taqwa. May He make the straight path easy and clear for us and raise us amongst the righteous on the the Day of Judgement. Ameen.
I am nothing more than a muslimah and mu'minah, insha'Allah, who is striving to please Allah
SWT.
A righteous man once said:
"Whoever enriches his outward behaviour by following the sunnah, and makes his inward soul wealthy through
contemplation,
and averts his gaze away from looking at what is forbidden, and avoids anything of a doubtful nature, and feeds
solely on what is halal- his inner sight will never falter."